Expat Life: A Roller-coaster of Emotions

It has been a month since my last blog post, haven’t even drafted my Tokyo trip, neither cafe nor hotel reviews were posted. Where the hell I’ve been to recently? lol. Okay, Just for an update to my beloved readers, hey! hey! I’m still here, struggling to get my work-life balance right. Phew!

This post is not about travel nor style statements, it’s not about foodgasm neither a stay-cay. Well, I wish.. I wish I could just be writing all about those. But on a real note or should I say a sad truth? Expat life is a roller-coaster of emotions.

I never really thought about the negative side of working and living abroad. All I remember back then was the eagerness to explore and live in a new city, meet new people, new workplace, definitely everything is new. No other thoughts but excitement. You know, that mid 20’s spirit can go as high as it can get. That was me. Definitely me.

On my first year as an expat, it was fun. I was lucky to be surrounded by people who were as positive as I am. High-spirited, bubbly, friendly.. Just as how I see myself, I was so favored to have met those people whom I now call friends and treated like a family. Everything was in place, from work life to new friends, new housemates etc., I couldn’t be more thankful for I know not everyone working and living abroad are as happy as I do. Of course reasons may vary. But as for me, I’ve found a home away from home. I still feel I was in my very own comfort zone.

Just recently, I changed my Job and that is where everything started to change as well. I took a different path. I Accepted a new challenge making me start from scratch. Mixing with people with different culture, race.. The reality of Life started to blow up. I knew it. The moment I decided to take this whole new journey is actually leaving the life I was too used to living. I don’t want to write in detail the negativity I’ve felt then, but rather sharing my realizations which can serve as a learning lesson.

Well, Each of us has our own “comfort zone” which, more than an actual place, is a psychological/emotional/ behavioral construct that defines the routine of our daily life. It describes the patterned world of our existence, keeps us relatively comfortable and calm, and helps us stay emotionally even.

But sometimes, stepping out from it allows us to grow and transform. I realized that experiencing a little stress and anxiety now and then is also a good thing, too. If all we ever do is strive to stay wrapped up in our little cocoon, keeping warm and cozy, we may be missing out a lot—maybe no new experiences, no challenges, and no risks.

And looking at the bigger picture of life, if we can’t step out of our comfort zone we may experience difficulty making change or transitioning, growing, and ultimately, transforming; in other words, all those things that define who we are and give our life personal meaning.